I feel like I was being tortured, like I had my soul taken away from me or something. |
I would say more important than having these big conversations with children about sex abuse would be every single day tell the child how much you love them, whatever happens to them even if they thought they were in trouble that you'll never hate them, never get them in trouble because they came to you. |
It's a situation where someone befriends the child, offer small gifts, maybe confide small secrets, have child do something naughty. What the offender is doing is they're observing this child as they start to increase their isolation, and if it's going well in their mind that's when the opportunity comes up for the child to be abused. |
Offenders tell children all these things, you're going to get in trouble, I'm going to be taken out of the home, you're not going to have your animals, you'll have to change schools, leave your friends, you're mom's going to jail. |