[Savage speaks of another example, which he did not include in the book, in which he became suddenly and violently ill away from home. The hospital where he ended up receiving emergency services needed legal consent to provide medical care, and in order to do so, they decided to acknowledge Terry as his spouse.] But that was their choice, ... They're improvising. |
At that point, I had 50,000 to 80,000 words written about the house. Instead, it became a sequel to The Kid in a way, |
But as gay parents our private life is so politicized. It's an object lesson. |
But it doesn't matter what you're doing, it matters how you're doing it. |
He got married today?!? To the girl he cheated on you with??? We're gonna call him. |
How can two gay guys be in favor of legal same-sex marriage and huge fans of the traditional family without wanting to marry? |
How can you tell somebody whose is pursuing happiness that they're somehow not American when that was the very first promise that America made? |
I do think people should get married, |
I don't think people should do things that make them miserable. And if being an in-shape, sober, monogamous heterosexual makes you miserable, don't do it. And if being an in-shape, sober, monogamous heterosexual makes you happy, do it. |
I don't think that sin and pursuing happiness are not necessarily the same thing. |
I felt a sense of loss and dislocation. |
I felt sad for D.J., |
I wanted to write about the idea of a multi-generational household because Americans don't live like that anymore, ... In writing about that place, I had to write about my great-grandparents' marriage, my grandparents' marriage, my parents' marriage. |
It hasn't changed the way we live or relate to each other, ... But there is this intangible, hard-to-pin-down sense of permanence that is hard to describe. |
It would be as if a print advertiser said 'Gee, The Wall Street Journal reaches all business people in the U.S., so why do I need to advertise in other business publications?' But the truth is it does work to advertise elsewhere. |